What We Can Learn From The LGBTQ Community

I always come to the same conclusion–it’s not my story to tell. Every time I sit down to write about a session I ask myself, “Do I make this about myself or about them?”  I am honored to have the pleasure of meeting each and every one of my clients and getting to know them in my attempts to make them comfortable in front of my camera and in front of me–sometimes a complete stranger.

I figure this story I am telling is being told from my perspective. Afterall, it’s my eye that made these photographs, therefore the writing should also come from my understanding. These clients, friends, families, kids are trusting me to tell their story. I want nothing more than to honor that.

My personal experience with people who are gay and lesbian is rather limited. I don’t have any friends in the LGBTQ community and I have no explanation for why not. It was never an issue for me. I’m all for being the person you were meant to be and be with the person you were meant to be with! Friendships just never happened. I recently had the privilege to work with two different couples and they taught me so much probably without knowing it. I just wish I knew it sooner. 

Gender roles are just a ridiculous social construct. Yep. With LGBTQ couples, the “roles” are just more fluid. I cannot assume who will lead the dip or whose hand will land on top. But as I was preparing for these sessions it occurred to me that the roles in my heterosexual house are fluid too. In fact, many traditional poses can go either way. Once I embraced this and got over the fear of saying something offensive, I was able to get to work and capture the love these couples have for each other. And it was nothing but beautiful!

I can’t wait to do more of these! With any luck, I’ll be seeing more of these two. They are over the moon for each other. Their happiness is contagious.

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Staying Close to Home

This family stole my heart and paid me in Oreos! You can’t imagine my excitement when they asked to do their family session in the neighborhood. Clients often ho and hum about where to do their session. My focus has always been connection. I am looking for connection, and connection is most easily orchestrated when you are where you spend your time. Where you are comfortable. 

Their daughter was the center of the session! She opened up immediately with what she loves to do–create! She is quite the budding artist, and has even made her first sale during a street display.

We moved outside into the neighborhood and there was no need for warm up clicks. Everyone was there to have a good time, hug, make goofy faces, dab, and be themselves. Not once did we say, “cheese.” Mom and dad don’t take themselves too seriously which made a ton of room for fun. 

Then the roller-skates came out. It was a favorite past time of mine, so when I saw the roller-skates in the pile of shoes I said I wanted to see what she could do. This little girl did not disappoint and proudly showed off her speed and jumps.

We gave our hugs and were ready to say goodbye. The best part of the night was when she wouldn’t let me leave without giving me a snack bag of Oreos and a craft. My heart, well, was just full.   

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If you’ve done family session in the grassy fields and the beach, I strongly recommend trying something little more personal. You’ll be surprised at the results. This was truly one of my most favorite sessions to date. Book your next session before they won’t want to wear the skates.

Family In-Home Newborn Session Reveals Who Wears The First Born Crown

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This new little family of three is actually a family of four.

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I know better than to tell this family that once the baby is born your four legged family member becomes “the dog.” I remember feeling appalled when someone had said that during my pregnancy.

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So I did my best to make sure I got a few pictures of Olive, the dog (not the baby). But I must say that I got more than just the one or two I intended. After all this is a newborn session, right?

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Lifestyle sessions lend so much more of who you are as family. They capture your values, your way of life, and your every day. Your every day is changing just as fast, if not faster, then the kids are.

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Let me tell your story. Learn more about why a lifestyle newborn session may be a good fit for you and your family. Then book your session before they ask your for the keys!